Houston Date Blog

Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. I know I have let a few weeks go by without updating but I woke up this morning feeling pretty rejuvenated and I wanted to make sure I got in a blog post while I was still i the mood. Like I said in my previous entry, I have totally redone my profile and I have sent out a lot of messages to various girls. What I did wa I looked at all the girls that live close to me that I liked and I sent out a message to each one. The messages slowly came in but I think I am done with getting any more messages from that last wave I sent out. So now what I have to do is everyday look at the new users that have joined. Everyday there are lots of new girls that join the online dating site so you have to sort by new users so you can take advantage of those girls who just joined and aren't old news. The good thing about the new girls is that they have not been on the site long and of course received lots of messages from guys. The other advantage to this approach is that a lot of girls will stay loyal to that first guy that they end up talking to and they will stick with him and see how things work out before moving on to the next guy. I am not like that, I try and talk to as many girls as possible at one time because I have learned that women are pretty flakey and life is too short to put all your eggs in one basket.

I have been out on a few dates since I started this process and I am actively talking about 8 different girls right now. Each one is at a different stage of knowing them. Two of them I went out with but there was no chemistry. I liked them but they weren't into me. At first I took this pretty hard but I then I realized it must just be my personality they don't like. The reason I say this is because obviously they liked the way l looked enough to invite me over or whatever but once I got there, they didn't like my personality. I am not too choked up about this now, but I was when it first happened. I guess I am lucky that it was not my appearance they didn't like because that is something I can not change. Changing my personality is something I can actually do. I talked to my friend about it and he was advising me to playback the evening and think about what I might have done or not done or said or not said that may have turned her off. It is really hard to be objective about these things when you are a highly emotional person like I am. I have a hard time not taking things like this personally. People always say to be objective and to not get emotionally wrapped up, that it isn't the end of the world, but it is easier said than done. Advice is much easier to give then to receive and actually implement.

Let me tell you about a date I went on last night. It was pretty good. One of the girls I met, her name is Emma and she is 26 years old. She works for her father at the family company. They are food packagers and she works in the admin section. It sounds like a reasonably good gig. She has red hair, she is tall, and she is thin. These are all the ideal physical appearance attributes that I like. She has them all so it was really just a matter of whether or not I liked her personality. I felt like drinking it up so I told her we should both each take a taxi and meet at the restaurant. She said that Italian food was her favorite so I took her to this cool restaurant called Artista Restaurant. The place was really nice inside. I had veal and she had chicken and we had a brief conversation about the ethics of eating veal etc. She said she had a sister who was a vegetarian and has learned a lot about the whole food industry and was considering becoming a vegan herself. The dinner was cool, the conversation was ok. I was trying to get a gauge on whether or not this girl was my type and also on what she thought of me. I like to think I can read people pretty good and be able to tell if someone likes me. I wasn't sure. We finished dinner and hopped in a taxi toward her place. I wasn't sure what was going to happen when we got there. To my surprise she asked me to come up for a drink. I went up, we had drinks, kissed and fooled around on the couch a bit then I left. I guess it went pretty good. We will see what she has to say now that it is the morning. I haven't heard from her yet today but I am expecting to.