Houston Date Blog

First of all, NO I have not spoken to Alina since we last went out. I am waiting for her to pursue me. I want to give her space and she what she will do. I certainly am not in a rush so I am going to just wait and see and see what she does. If she chooses never to talk to me again then so be it. It is what it is I like to say. If she does reach out and want to talk to me in any fashion then I know I am golden. My friend hates it when I use the expression 'I am golden' but he really hates it when I say 'it is what it is'. I am not sure why I brought that up but oh well it seemed relevant at the time lol. Enough about this stuff. Let me tell you about the new girl I met and the date we went on last night.

I actually met her on Friday morning online. First she sent me a message saying she thought I was cute and to drop her a line sometime. I am happy because I just recently changed my online profile pics on the dating site that I use and I guess this means that these pics are much better. It is interesting to see what kinds of girls are looking at my profile. It shows you exactly who has been looking at your profile etc so you can check them out as well. Most of the girls look nice but some of them are old and lolish and some even have kids in their profile pictures. I guess they want to be clear from the start that they are only interested in a man that can tolerate their children they already have. Personally I would never hook up with a woman who has kids already no matter how hot she is. I say this because I had a friend once that only tolerated his girlfriend's kid because he was with her full time. He told me how they used to hang out together all the time just the two of them and everything was blissful. Then once the kid started coming over, when she would stay the weekend at his place, her parents stopped looking after the kid and the kid would come too. He was like 10 years old and he was horrible. He told me they rarely had a chance to be intimate and that he would catch the kid eating ice cream out of the tub at 3am when he wasn't allowed to have ice cream in the first place. It is stories like this that makes me avoid women who already have kids.

Ok so back to the story about the girl I met on Friday morning. We sent a few messages back an forth internally in the dating site and then I asked her if she had msn and if she wanted to chat on msn instead of bouncing emails back and forth. So we fired up msn and started chatting on there. Once she was comfortable that I wasn't a psycho she turned on her webcam. She is 27 years old and she is works in an Animal Hospital as an assistant. I really liked that fact because I am a huge animal lover. So after chatting with her on msn for about an hour I told her I would really like to talk to her on the phone and she was like ok and gave me her number. I called her up and we chatted on the phone for like 2 and a half hours. Luckily I have a cordless phone in my house so I was able to walk around the house and go sit on the patio etc while we chatted. We found that we really had a lot in common and I was like well we should get together then and she should let me take her out for dinner sometime and she was like ok how about tomorrow and I was like w00t.

Saturday came around and I had to figure out where I was going to take her. I decided I would take her to this little place called Baba Yega Restaurant which is in the heart of Montrose. It is this little house on it's own and it is a cool cafe type of place with good food and chilled environment. I took a taxi there to meet her and when the taxi pulled up I could see this girl standing there looking around, long brown hair blowing in the wind. She looked a lot hotter in real life than she did in her pictures and on webcam. When I got out of the cab she noticed me and gave me a big smile and I was like wow this is too good to be true. I walked up to her and we shook hands and introduced ourselves to one another which was a bit of a joke since we felt like we already knew each other. We went in and sat down and ordered food and for some reason I started thinking about the song "Hunger Strike" by Temple of the Dog. Who the hell is Temple of the Dog you ask? Well, they are group that was formed back in the 90's when alternative music was very popular. It was two girls from Pearl Jam and two guys from Soundgarden. They got together and made one album but the only noteworthy song was Hunger Strike. I am not really sure what the song is about but I believe it is a political song very similar to Sunday Bloody Sunday by U2. You know I saw U2 many many many years ago when they were on their ZooTV Tour and it was awesome. Bono called the White House in the middle of the show and asked to speak to the President and the receptionist was like WTF. Needless to say, he was not successful in connecting with the old Commander in Chief. They had huge tv screens with weird bulls and shit running and doing stuff. I was on LSD at the time and even though I had a horrible trip and felt like my chest was going to explode, I can still say to this day that that was the most enjoyable concert I have been to. So yeah we are sitting there eating our dinner and I am thinking about Eddie Vedder and Chris Cornell. I know it's random but hey that is what I was thinking. So we chatted while we ate and she told me some stories about saving dogs and stuff. There is no way I could ever handle working in a place like that and witnessing animals in pain. I know that it is their job to help these animals but I simply couldn't do it.

After dinner we took a taxi to a place called Scott Gertner's Skybar for some drinks. They had live music playing so it was really hard to hear each other talk and we ended up leaving after an hour or so and I told her we could head back to my place that I had a full bar and I could make her a fancy fruity drink. So we took a taxi and stopped at a corner store to buy some orange juice. I gave her the tour of my place and she seemed quite impressed. Then I put on some music and mixed her a screwdriver. I know it's not a fancy drink but that is what she asked for. Personally I like to drink single malt whiskeys, premium vodka like Grey Goose, and Cognac. I prefer XO stuff like Hennessey but hey the stuff is really expensive. I usually just end up drinking regular vodka like Smirnoff. We sat on the balcony I have on the 2nd floor of my place and sipped our drinks. It was kind of chilly out, the sun had gone down and we are in the winter season but it really doesn't get that cold in Texas even during the winter. She told me that she had only joined the online dating site for about 4 to 5 days before she messaged me. She said the other guys she had met seemed like dicks and only interested in one thing. She said I seemed different and she said she was really happy and that it must have been fate or destiny that we connected at the right time. I always get very wary of girls who use the words fate and destiny. I do not believe in fate, destiny, God, astrology, and psychics. I have a hard time hanging around people who believe in these kinds of things and I will often try and dissuade them of this belief. It is never successful and I usually just get really frustrated. My parents brought me up to believe in things that are tangible. Anyways I am off on a tangent now just like MC Sidetracked. At some point during sitting there I realized that she was touching my hand so I grabbed her hand and held onto it. We continued to talk about bullshit for at least another 30 minutes without either of us acknowledging that we were holding hands. Finally she said "you have very soft hands" and I replied that her hands were soft as well... then there was a pause and we both broke out into laughter. I grabbed her empty glass and walked back into the house to pour her another drink. When I went back out with both drinks in hand she was standing up and leaning against the railing looking outwards. I walked up behind her and in a bold move I put my arms around her and kind of hugged/held her from behind. She reached up and put her hand on my arm and held it gently. We talked about the view or something superficial for a minute or two, then she rotated in my arms so that she was now facing me. We kissed under the moonlight while music played in the background and I felt like the luckiest guy in the world. I had no idea I was going to have such good fortune meeting girls online.

Let me tell you about a new girl I met and went out with. She is a German girl named Alina and she is also 31 which is cool because she is the first girl I have gone out with in a while that is the exact same age as me. It's weird how when you are younger you are always going out with girls your own age but it seems like once you hit about 26 you start to throw the age card out of the window and it seems like you are never dating someone your own age anymore. She works for a printing company as the admin assistant for them. She is very very nice and very very polite, she is your typical office worker who aims to please everyone with very little attitude. She doesn't have much of an accent for a German girl because she said she moved to USA when she was 10 years old. She looked kind of like Heidi Klum but with slightly darker hair and not as sharp features... a bit more soft which was cool. She told me that she had been broken up with her fiancee for 4 months now and hadn't really been out with anyone since he cheated on her and left her 2 weeks before they were to be married. She said it really messed her up but she refused to become a sad tale and vowed to get back out there and try and meet someone new.

After hearing this I was really taken aback after hearing this and it made me think a bit about my own relationship and how I left and what kind of wreckage I might have left behind. The thing is though, I know that I did the best thing for both of us. I know that I am happier now and I have to believe that she is happier now as well, and even if she isn't happy, she will eventually be happy because there was no way I was going to make her happy in the long run. I felt sorry for this girl but at the same time I was cautious about moving forward with her because of she had been through. I wasn't sure I wanted a girl with such deep emotional scars because I really don't have any plans of getting into a long term relationship. I mean on my profile page online for dating it does say I am looking for a relationship but that's because you don't get any replies when you put you are just single and not looking for a relationship. So I have been telling myself that I will pursue each girl as if it could be a potential relationship and if I am not feeling it then I will just dump her.

Oh yeah, I took her to this restaurant called Zula Restaurant. This is where we talked about all of this stuff. This was on Sunday evening. The rest of dinner was pretty bland because now I felt like I was walking on eggshells and I knew I wasn't going to be getting any pussy and that I would have to now use reverse psychology on her and start to be the complete opposite of desperate with her. I would have to be a bit of a dick and make her come to me. After dinner I took her home and told her that I assume she has to get up early in the morning for work. Unlike myself because I work from 4 until midnight cuz that is the hours of our restaurant. She was like oh... ok... almost as if she wanted to maybe go do something else with me before the night was over but I think half of her is super conservative and said no just go home because you need your sleep anyways. I didn't even attempt to kiss her. I just sat there in the drivers seat and said I had a "nice time" and that's it. She said I had a nice time too... and then awkwardly reached out to give me a kiss and I turned my cheek and she kissed it. Then she left and I rolled home. I know you might think I am crazy for trying this approach but it is something that requires patience. You will see.